Kim Namjoon – RM – Rap Monster




Kim Namjoon, aka RM, previously Rap Monster and Runch Randa.
“I’m Kim NamJoon, and also, RM of BTS. I’m an idol, and I’m an artist from a small town in Korea,”
Kim Namjoon, UN Speech at the United Nations.




Kim Namjoon, aka RM, previously Rap Monster and Runch Randa.
“I’m Kim NamJoon, and also, RM of BTS. I’m an idol, and I’m an artist from a small town in Korea,”
Kim Namjoon, UN Speech at the United Nations.
I have to send you guys my apologies…

But first some background:- Me and my friend have a term for when we are supposed to be chatting to them, texting or arranging something but we don’t as we forget or get distracted. We call it Hobi-tracked because were both Hobi bias and its usually because we’ve been sucked into a Pinterest / Youtube session of watching all things Hobi.
A big shout out to Kala – who is part of the reason I get so Hobi-tracked, we both feed each others obsessions! 😂 Come on who wouldn’t be side tracked by his adorable-ness.

I have started to write some posts on BTS member profiles, a few more drama reviews, and introductions to some of the other kpop groups I have been discovering. But whilst discovering these other groups has been amazing and I’ve loved falling deeper into the Kpop hole, it also means I have a lot of content I can feast upon.

Which leads me back to the apology, I have fallen into a well of music videos, VLives, interviews, live performances for so many new groups, I haven’t actually done much writing, but I have down plenty of research for my posts. 😂
Last week I was Monsta X -tracked, I may have watched their cover of Bruno Mars Versace on the Floor an unhealthy amount. I loved that tune anyway, but seeing Kiyhun, Minhyuk, Jooheon and the others perform it, was just …😍 wow! Monsta X are still quite new for me so I have been having fun listening to new music and watching new videos, but because of all this research, I haven’t had much chance to write.
The week before I had a very SHINee week as I was missing the guys, as all but one member is currently serving in the military – just leaving Taemin to fly solo and carry the SHINee torch. He is rocking it and I am loving some of his solo stuff, but I still miss the guys so I had a very SHINee youtube session and ended up watching videos all night and didn’t have chance to write again. You might be noticing a pattern soon. 😂😂😂
This weekend seems to be a GOT7 and BtoB weekend as we’ve had a lot of playlists on this weekend with both groups on and I’ve been buying myself some new albums of theirs. Also, with GOT7 hopefully (fingers crossed we heres something soon) coming to London in October, I’ve been getting very excited by this.
Basically I am so sorry I haven’t had much chance to write my journey in to the Kpop hole, I really want to share it with you, but I’ve just been having so much fun actually enjoying falling into it. I will write more soon I promise. I have started my BTS profiles and I have some fun Top 10 blog posts to put up soon. And I have some exciting news regarding contributors to my blog soon too, so please keep an eye out for that.

I hope you guys are all enjoying your own journey whether it be into Kpop, music in general or anything else you have discovered recently. Embrace your likes and obsessions and show your weird! It will make your life more interesting and exciting and once you open up to allow yourself to enjoy more things, I hope you will become a happier and more confident version of you. I know I definitely have, I have also discovered some amazing new friends and become part of a huge family which is amazing in itself. Please share your wonderful stories about discovering Kpop or discovering something you love in the comments, I really want to hear all about it.
If you’ve ever been scared to share your loves/ obsessions etc, or you find people roll their eyes at you, or if you just want to feel connected to people. This is a safe place, we embrace everybody here. Whatever you love or like whether it be BTS, GOT7, TWICE or any other kpop or Kdrama, but if youre massive Harry Potter or Enid Blyton fan, come say hi and share your weird. We are a very accepting fandom over here and just love to see peoples passion and interests. Say hi and drop me a comment. 💜💜💜💜
Hopefully I will have more posts for you soon.
See you later guys!
Tina T – Butterfly Child 🦋
Granted this is a slippery slope, and if you are standing on the edge of the hole, becoming ARMY (name for fans of BTS) can be tiring and hard on your wallet but it is exciting, exhilarating, and one of the best parts, you meet so many other ARMY’s who are wonderful, generous and beautiful people. Ready to fall in, I am warning you now – I am prepared to give you a little nudge.

If you’re new to this Bangtan Sonyeondan life and you are getting your J’s confused, or you’re getting V confused with Jungkook, or stage names are all in a tangle with real names, the next few posts might be helpful.

So where do we start? Well, I believe all 7 members are as important as each other, but originally they all did have specific roles, although as time has gone on, they all do get to show various talents across all roles. If you ever have ever been to a concert or seen their live stages on tv, you will undoubtably will have heard the fan chant. I am going to follow the fan chant and natural progression, by starting with our leader, Kim Namjoon, aka RM on the next post.
Before I start here is a little breakdown of some kpop basics, as this will help understand the different roles later on.
Every member in a kpop group has a role (or sometimes more than one role). They all still do the dancing, singing etc, but originally they all have a role to help the groups establish themselves. Every group is different, and has a different spread of roles, and often all members of the group do excel at more than one thing, but from debut, they would all have been assigned a role to work with.
Leader – Usually but not always the oldest member of the group. It might also be the one trained for the longest, the most talented or some or other characteristic which makes them a leader. Normally, an able speaker, mature and able to control, comfort and generally lead the group.
Main – This covers all disciplines, there will be a main rapper, singer and dancer. Generally considered to be the best of the group in that certain discipline. They will either have the best vocals, range etc, or have the best technique in rapping or dancing etc. Often main singers/dancers will be the centre to showcase the talent, although not always the case. Main singers will often have the most stable voice and will take on the chorus.
Lead – The lead is the second best singer/rapper/dancer of the group. They would usually join in singing most of the verses.
Other singers, rappers dancers may not be as talented as the lead or main, although again not always the case, as it is very well known, all idols work ridiculously hard to train to become idols. But usually sub vocals, dancers etc will support the lead and main.
Visual – The visual of the group is chosen as they are considered to be the most attractive of the group. They would basically fit the ideal beauty standards for k-pop idols. Often they are out front and centre to show off their beauty,
Not necessarily a role but is often a leading characteristic;
Face – Usually the face of the group is the most popular or famous member of the group. Whether it be due to looks, personality or talent, this member will stand out to the fans and will often be the member that defines the group. This often links in with the visual or centre of the group, it not always.
Maknae – Not really a role, but as with the leader usually being the eldest, obviously there will be a youngest. Maknae means youngest. Usually but not always expected to have a good amount of Aeygo, will often be the centre/face of the group as the youngest often gets a lot of attention.
In my humble opinion, all the members of BTS are dancers, singers, rappers and visuals. I believe they are all talented across the board, yes they’re members who excel more in one discipline than another as with anything in life.

A good place to get to know them and their songs is always going to be the official Music Videos, you are going to get a steady camera and a good view of each member as they sing and dance. This way you can decide which songs are your favourites, if you like the rap line, vocal line or the dancers or a mix of all of them.
Secondly, I would say to watch their live performances at award shows, concerts, musters etc, either professionally recorded or fancams – videos recorded by fan bases or fans. Fancams can be the whole of BTS or solo focus. Essentially you can pick to concentrate on each member as they’re so many fancam focuses, which focus just on one member. This will hopefully help you distinguish each member.
Finally, if like me you want to see more than just the performance side of things, there is a huge array of content out there. BTS are performers first and foremost but they also have a huge social media presence and they have give so much content sharing other aspects with ARMY, including but not limited to RUN BTS episodes, which are a bit like a variety show, except only BTS focussed. Also, past programs like American Hustle Life, Rookie King and Bon Voyages. These are also good to see the members doing more than just performing a bit of a warning, they are hugely professional on stage but when they are all together playing games etc, they can be competitive, silly, funny and adorable. You may spend many hours trying to catch up on all the online content. It’s not a bad thing, in fact its amazing they have given ARMY so much, but you will feel like you will never watch it all and will never catch up, but that’s ok too!

Right now, we have the initial introduction over and done with I will be moving onto individual members in the next posts. As we know the guys like playing games such as UNO, I have chosen to introduce you to the members in a Top Trump style.
It is only a fun look at each member and does not contain everything you will ever need to know about each member, but hopefully is a small introduction, to give you the little nudge you need to fall down the hole properly. 🙂
Please do introduce yourself in the comments and let me know if you struggled to remember their names at the beginning. Or how you found BTS or entered the fandom.
I hope you enjoy my round up of the Bangtan Boys – Top Trumps style.
See you soon,
Butterfly Child (Tina)

I held off on writing a blog post to celebrate the 6th anniversary of BTS until after their day of Muster in Busan, for two reasons:
So to show my appreciation and to celebrate BTS’s 6th year, I wanted to highlight singles with a music video released each year which I have enjoyed/ loved for whatever reason. Obviously I like BTS for many reasons, let’s be fair though the main reason I have fallen head over for them, is their crazy, quirky, randomness and nutter personalities! It’s really hard to pick one thing I like about BTS, I could talk about their personalities, discography, message or a thousand other things. But for me, it will always come back to a love for music and also music videos! I love a good tune to dance and sing along too, but sometimes I really appreciate a good music video too.
No More Dream was the single BTS debuted with, everyone remembers it as it was the first song anyone would have heard from them, if you were a fan from the beginning. If like me, you were late to the game, you would have found this video when searching for more content to feed your BTS habit. But I am not choosing this one, I personally really like We are Bulletproof pt. 2, coming from the same album 2 cool for skool. It was released on June 12th 2013, and promoted alongside No More Dream. Its music video was released on July 16th 2013.

As with No More Dream, it carries a heavy Hip Hop vibe but feels more raw. It features a really impressive choreography, which if you have been keeping up with the 5th Muster in Busan, you will see they have not lost a trick as they performed this outstandingly. Jhope, Jimin and Jungkook performed the dance break live again on stage and from the small clips I saw, it was just as impressive as the first time I googled the music video. The dance break is the part that stand out for me and why I highlighted it for 2013.
The outfits are stylised to match the video and I actually like them. They all look fun, quirky and very cute. If like me, you are new to BTS and didn’t catch some of their earlier videos, compared to seeing them in the usual fashion forward outfits they are seen in now, this video could come as quite a shock. When I get into something, I get into it in a big way, so I have watched every video from Debut, and although the songs have changed, evolved and grown, they still do have a hop hop vibe, and I really like this. I really like the earlier songs, even though I may not have been their target audience.

Following from my introduction profile of the group, I remarked how Jhope once said where their group name derived from (being bulletproof against words/actions), and so this song I think is just an all round introduction to how BTS wanted their careers to go. I like that they challenge the norm, labels and the trickier side of things. For now – here is Jimin:
“Oh! 나만치 해봤다면 돌을 던져
We go hard 우린 겁이 없어
(Click click, bang bang) we juss sing it like
(Click click, bang bang) we juss sing it like
Oh! 나만치 해봤다면 돌을 던져
We go hard 우린 겁이 없어
(Click click, bang bang) we juss sing it like
(Click click, bang bang) we juss sing it like”
(English Translation from Genius.com):
“OH! Throw a stone at me if you’ve done as much as I did,
We go hard, we have no fear,
Click Click Bang Bang! We just sing it like,
Click Click Bang Bang! We just sing it like!”
BTS War of Hormone (2014) Park Jimin (Jimin)
Now established as a Kpop group and starting to gain recognition, 2014 carried on with the Skool theme and finding their feet in the music industry.

2014 is a tricky year for me as I love the music videos for Boy in Luv and Danger, if I was just picking a song from 2014 though I would have picked 2nd Grade. I love that one! We stick in on in the car in the morning and it wakes us up and gets us ready for the day. Unfortunately, it wasn’t a single released and doesn’t come with a movie video.
So, instead I have chosen War of Hormone, a controversial choice I know. The video was released October 21st 2014, and the video itself is beautifully made. The black/white and red retro outfits, with all the member showing a different style was the first thing I noticed when watching, before I looked up the lyrics or saw the controversy surrounding it. The song itself is about the boys surge of “hormones” making them sing about their desire for women. The controversy came from the video and the lyrics, which yes can cause some offence. They are objectifying women as purely something attractive to look at and gain desire from. I can understand why some people might be offended, but I am not one of them, as they aren’t doing it in a creepy way. This song was released when they were all 18 – 22 year olds (-ish), and as Idols, I imagine their personal lives and dating scenes are somewhat limited but they are in fact all young men. I am in no way condoning mysogenistic behaviour, but I don’t think the video or the lyrics were meant that way. I think it was simply young men showing their appreciation for a woman’s beauty, and their desire for women.

Let’s be honest, we all do it, whether it be watching music videos, dramas, films or seeing some one walking down the street, we all often feel desire and/or sexual thoughts. I appreciate BTS for their music but I’d be lying if I said that was it. They are 7 very attractive guys and they know how to ramp up the sex appeal and dnace/sing/act in a way that they know women will like. So yes, I often watch the music videos and let’s just say my thoughts are not always on the innocent side. So I could never be offended by this song. I would be a hypocrite if I did. I can appreciate some would take offence though, so I am glad they did issue an apology, and they also do admit when they have made mistakes. I think this shows that this one song was not meant to be offensive, they do seem like genuinely nice men.
The lyrics in this video aren’t saying they expect anything from the woman in the video, they are simply pointing out that she makes them feel things, and they would happily quite like to get to know her, and yes they might even mean in the biblical sense. I don’t believe I need a man’s validation to know I look good, I don’t choose my outfits based on what my husbands opinion is. If i think I look good, I will wear it, but and this is a big BUT, if I am out, and I get looks from men or heaven forbid some gentleman approaches me, (I mean in a friendly, charming, not scary or provocative way) and was expressing desire, I wouldn’t be offended, it would make my night.

Yes I think they should choose their lyrics more wisely, and as Idols who are role models for many young people they need to be a little careful, but they are in fact, human. Young men who have the exact same thoughts and feelings as everyone else, and I can’t see the harm in this video. In fact, I think its one of my favourites, I know please don’t hate me! 🙂 I think it’s more based on the fact that from viewing other videos, and seeing the members in other situations, they are in fact gentlemen, so this fun, cheesy and yes a little misogynistic video isn’t harming anyone, and in hindsight they did apologise for the lyrics.
For a more detailed and better worded view of where my opinion lies – check out: http://seoulbeats.com/2014/10/bts-wage-war-hormone/
So back to the video, the boys are all fighting for the attention of a girl and **spoiler alert** V wins. I think it would be a hard choice to choose between these 7 men, but I think from this video I would have chosen V too. He is the reason I chose this video over the other videos from 2014. For me, its all about his facial expressions throughout the entire video – honestly, he looks like he is having fun and enjoying himself a little too much and I am here for it.
Just watching this section of the music video was enough to make it a firm favourite in our household. Here is a small collection of some of my favourite V expressions.






Followed by my absolute favourite part of this video – I absolutely love how close all the guys are. I think their friendship / brotherhood is amazing and seeing them have fun is the best thing and this collection of images makes my day!
V slapping Jimin’s bum and then staring at his hand – that is a whole mood right there!




And finally I do have to give a shout out to my favourite boy too – Jhope (Jung Hoseok). In one section of the video he invites the young lady into his car, and she turns him down. The first time I saw this video I exclaimed and said something a long the lines of ” I wouldn’t turn him down”. My children relish in telling my husband this story every time we watch it.
I think 2015 was one of the most important years for BTS – not talking from experience as we are still a few years off from when I first discovered from. But from literature and music videos and just being a fan, 2015 was a good year. I Need You is in an incredible video which portrays troubled youth and is hugely important to the alternative universe BTS have created in their music. The video reached 1 million views in 16 hours, the fastest record for any BTS music video at that time. The original uncut version was much darker and was released at a later date. I didn’t choose I Need You for my video though as I believe it is an incredible video but it gets a lot of love, so I chose Dope.
“Hey Yo Ladies and Gentlemen!”
BTS Dope (24th June 2015)

Dope was released on April 29th 2015 and was featured on the album The Most Beautiful Moment in Life part 1. The music video was the first video to reach a million likes, and 2 million likes! If you’ve seen it, you will know why it was the first to have that many likes. If not, why haven’t you? Go check it out now, don’t worry I’ll wait!!
The video itself is stunning, its bright and cheery and the outfits are on point. It is one of my children’s favourite videos for many reasons but I guess the dance is what stands out for them. Whenever it comes on, they both instantly jump up and want to dance along, and my daughter who is the dancer in our house, almost has the whole dance down pat!
Now, I love the dance, its amazing and I love to see my children replicate it. The choreography is outstanding and they perform it really well. I even got to hear it at Wembley – its an amazing song! I also really like the lyrics, as mentioned previously I think they have created some really good songs with a really good message:
“3포세대? 5포세대?
그럼 난 육포가 좋으니까 6포세대
언론과 어른들은 의지가 없다며
우릴 싹 주식처럼 매도해
왜 해보기도 전에 죽여 걔넨 enemy enemy enemy
왜 벌써부터 고개를 숙여 받아 energy energy energy
절대 마 포기 you know you not lonely
너와 내 새벽은 낮보다 예뻐
So can I get a little bit of hope? (yeah)”
“The media and adults say we don’t have willpower, condemning us like stocks
Why are they killing us before we can even try, enemy enemy enemy
Why are you hanging your head and accepting it already? energy energy energy
Don’t ever give up, you know you not lonely
Our dawn is prettier than the day
So can I get a little bit of hope yeah”
Dope (2015) RM and Suga (Kim Namjoon and Min Young)
But sadly this is not why I chose this music video over I Need you or Run, and I feel a little ashamed admitting this but I am human and a woman, its purely a very shallow reason: The Outfits! From Dr Jin to Race Car Driver Jhope, and everyone in between, the outfits are incredible. Add in the singing, rapping and dancing and you have got yourself a winner! So as with the guys in the previous video – the rest of the blog post its my hormones typing, I am sorry but I am also not sorry!







If you don’t immediately fall in love from the beginning of this music video, are you watching the right video??
I wish I had something profound to say on this video but I really don’t – I just love the outfits and yes the dancing, in the outfits! So I shall leave you with this portion of the video! Enjoy!
Stay tuned for part two years 2016 -2018
Let me know what is your favourite music video from 2013, 2014 and 2015. I don’t think i have songs and music videos I dislike, I have just chosen ones that stand out to me. Drop me a comment with your opinions, I honestly would love to hear from fellow ARMY’s.
“We have learned to love ourselves, so now I urge you to ‘speak yourself”
Kim Namjoon, UN General Assembley Speech
I don’t think my blog is quite what RM had in mind when he asked us to speak yourself, but small steps I think make for an easy journey. I will be adding more blog posts on how I fell down the hole but as it’s concert week, I’m afraid you will all have to follow me on my journey to London for now to see BTS at Wembley Stadium. If there is anyone new to all of this, I’ll add a little glossary at the end, until I’ve got a little more time to go more in depth on who these guys are etc.
Excitement is building in our house as BTS has landed in London and the concert is fast approaching.

Love Yourself, Speak Yourself tour kicked off in May at The Rose Bowl, Los Angeles to a packed crowd and as much as tried to avoid videos so I wouldn’t be spoilers.i couldn’t help myself and I saw an epic video of a drone flight over the crowd, and wow! It looked beautiful and amazing.
We have been counting the days to the concert, slowly awaiting out turn. The children have broken up from school, I have had my last day at work and after a huge amount of procrastinating, tweeting and YouTube videos, we are all packed and ready to go.

We are spending a long weekend in London to see the concert and do a bit of sightseeing as a family, so the whole weekend is going to be very exciting but also very tiring.
I didn’t really get twitter until I started to fall for BTS’ charms, and now I am completely under their spell, I find I want to check it every day. Social media is a huge part of being an ARMY, their interaction with fans is immense, It’s not hard to understand why they have been made top social artist for the past three years running at The Billboard Music Awards. So in between packing, I have been keeping a relatively close eye out, as since we believe they landed in London, we haven’t heard much at all. I hope they are resting or seeing some of London’s beauty.
Thankfully, we had confirmation they are due to appear on Britain’s Got Talent this evening, and we even had a very cute “cheers mate” from RM (Namjoon).
His ability to change his accent wherever he is, is really cute and adorable, and his English is wonderful. I love their songs, the dancing and their energy and it has never bothered me that they are a Korean group. I am a believer than music transcends languages. If none of them could speak English, it wouldn’t bother me one bit. The fact they all try to speak English and other languages of countries they visit, is testament to how awesome they are, it is truly a mark of a good person to put this much effort in. I love this as I always try to speak the language of the place I am visiting as I think it is hugely important to build good, positive relationships. So to see these wonderful and humble men trying hard to show all ARMY’s how much they appreciate them, well I have no words. Excellent role models for my children.
I had a hard time getting tickets for me and the kids originally and ended up paying quite a bit for some, but we don’t mind because at least we are going. As I was feeling quite sad though, I went looking to cheer myself up and there are so many fan organised events and competitions. I love the charity ones, BTS are very generous when it comes to Charity and I am so glad this is passed onto fans. I donated to a few pools for different charities and even though there was a slight chance I might win some goodies or something, it was actually just nice doing something for others.
In the lead up to this week, we have been watching lots of music videos, streaming Boy with Luv, as I think it would have been wonderful to have it back in the top 40 for the weekend, I don’t know if it’s possible as I don’t fully understand the whole top 40/ streaming/paid songs thing, but we tried in my house.
We also started watching Run BTS episode and we almost finished the American Hustle Life series, but not quite but it’s all good because we will need something to do to help cure out post concert blues we are sure to get next week.
My two love to dance so we have also been practising some dancing and I’ve got to admit my two are impressive when it comes to Dope!
But we are all a little bit in love with Anpanman and the choreography and it must really be a sight when all three of us are dancing in my living room. We live on a main, very busy road and you can see directly into our window. I often wonder what everyone thinks as they drive and walk past, I imagine they are thinking what a strange family. I don’t care enough to stop though! 😂 We love dancing around the living room. I also enjoy oversharing about my new found love for BTS, which I also imagine must leave people thinking I’m a bit strange, but most of my frailty and friends have gotten used to my quirky ways and I would like to hope they love me for me. I won’t be changing anytime soon, so I bloody hope so anyway!

I’m not sure I will have time to blog over the weekend so it might be an update after the fact but you will be able to follow me on twitter and Instagram over the weekend sharing tweets, photos and videos.
If you’re going to the concert, maybe see you there! I’ll be in a GO GO tshirt! Whatever you’re doing this weekend, make it awesome!
Here’s a sneak preview of a furtive blog post about my slowly growing collection.



If I don’t get chance to write, see you on the other side 💜💜💜💜💜
Welcome to my new blog celebrating my weird!
Now I am not saying everyone who likes something different is weird, we all like what we like and we all do certain things, follow different groups, have different hobbies and that is amazing and I am just taking a word ” weird” and using it to celebrate what makes me unique. What makes me, me! And most of the time, it is a little quirky, weird or strange, kind of far out there hobbies etc. Hence the “show me your weird”! I want to hear all about what makes you, you! We are amazing and special and we all love different things and I bet some people are scared to share. But not me! I want to share my likes/loves/passions and hopefully make some wonderful acquaintances in the process, and encourage you to share what you love.

Image courtesy of BiG Hit Entertainment.
Bit of a back story…
This will be my second blog – my first blog Butterfly child is all about my family, adventures and books, lots of books – so what’s this going to be about…
I have always enjoyed a good comic/graphic novel and this slowly spread to anime shows. But before Netflix we didn’t have much choice so I took what I could. One day I randomly searched for Avatar the Last Airbender on Netflix and lots of other wonderful anime’s popped up. So after getting reacquainted with some of my old favourites (Attack on a Titan and Full Metal Alchemist being a couple) I settled in and loved it. Normally my tv plans are either just what’s on, what my husband is watching or whatever is on Disney Junior. But here was something I had enjoyed previously, and I could watch for an hour before going to bed. And as you are all aware Netflix is a sod for then recommending everything under the sun for you, if it is even slightly related. Enter Asian dramas, specifically Korean Dramas.

Thanks to Netflix for the wonderful selection of kdramas…
Skip ahead a little bit and roughly two years ago, after ignoring some recommendations for a while I decided to give some ago! And wow, I fell down that hole super quick. I have always had a thing for languages anyway, so I have watched many programmes / films with subtitles in my past so this wasn’t too strange. Although, my family were initially a little lost, but they’ve always accepted me for my quirky ways, they weren’t going to stop now.
I fell in love with the drama, which is funny because I am not a fan of the over dramatic soap operas of the English variety, but there is just something about a Korean drama that draws you in, and before you know it, you’re 15 episodes in and wondering how much sleep you really need, and if you can fit just 3 more hour long episodes in the next half an hour!
I am still a huge fan of a good drama and part of this blog will be sharing my favourites, reviews and finding some new dramas to watch.

Next on my to watch list.
http://asianwiki.com/Abyss_(Korean_Drama)
This was just the beginning of my journey and I am still only at the beginning really. I was aware of kpop but I never paid much attention, I was happy with my dramas.
Last October, I was watching Graham Norton! I really enjoy his show, so it was just on one evening, and he had a Korean pop band on, I saw them dance and thought they were good but still I didn’t really pay much attention. I am a pinterest addict and have you ever done that thing where you look up one small innocent thing for a mermaid birthday party and before you know it you’re watching a video on the stingrays in the wild.

Well that is exactly what happened except with BTS, I sort of remembered them from Graham Norton so I found and I watched a few more videos and thought wow, they are really good, and can sing and rap and….. well you can probably guess the rest. I googled them just to find out their names and who is who and that is how I fell into the kpop hole. I don’t believe this is unique – honestly it’s the start of quite a few fans. Seriously, it has memes and everything! 😂
I am now definitely a fully fledged ARMY – although slightly older then the average fan and I am part of a wonderful group of “senior” fans, I am using that word with caution, we are a group of over 25 year olds who all enjoy BTS and other kpop music. And although, I thought I had already fallen deep into the hole, it turns out the wonderland goes on and on and on if you let it. I now have quite a few groups I enjoy, a few I love as much as BTS and some I can’t wait to look more into and continue on my journey into the Wonderland.
So what?
Why have I chosen to branch out and write a new blog for this and not just keep it in with my Butterfly child blog. Well, my other blog is all about my life with my family, all my wacky adventures and things we do together. It is also where I keep all my book reviews and my mainstream hobbies, lets say. Now I am happy to share my weird on that blog and you shouldn’t be afraid to share whatever you want wherever you want. But I wanted a specific blog about my journey into this new wonderland of music/dancing and drama, and I am happy to share with with my Butterfly readers but I don’t want them to feel obliged because they follow me over there, so I am starting A new blog journey. I will still write for both. I just wanted a dedicated blog to feel free to gush to my hearts content.
Warning! I am a massive Sope fan – Hobi (JHope) and Yoongi (Suga) are definitely my bias. So there will probably a lot of chatter about them. If you follow me over on Twitter, you will probably see this! 😂😂😍😍

So why this and why now?
There is a very special reason I want to write a blog on this and share it. Some people say that things come into your life when you need them and I feel this is true for my new found Kpop obsession. It reminded me to celebrate what makes me unique, what makes me happy and mostly not to be ashamed to celebrate this.
Something blasted into my life and made me remember who I am, appreciate who I am and has given me back some of my confidence I had lost. I didn’t become a completely different person as a mum but I definitely faded slightly, its really hard to explain and this is the only way to describe it. I absolutely love being a mum more than anything in the world, but I also quite liked who I was before I became a mum and with all the pressure we put on ourselves and everything going on when you have small children, I think we all lose a bit of ourselves, and we evolve and change. This is absolutely needed to look after our children and I love being a mum but I want to keep the crazy, quirky, confident part of me too, and I think somewhere I pushed this part of me aside. Returning to work, writing my blog, my kids being more independent and lots of other factors have all worked together and I was starting to get to a really good place.
The final piece that has made me truly feel better and more like my old self but with all this added awesomeness that comes with being a mum, was finding something I enjoy for myself. Rediscovering something just for me and not feeling guilty for it, in fact not only not feeling guilty but embracing it and celebrating it. Mum guilt has a lot to answer for, every decision we make always comes with a small or large bit of mum guilt attached, but we should all be allowed a break, a rest, or to enjoy things and do things for ourselves without feeling bad about doing it or worse still not taking a risk of doing something because of mum guilt.
In my ever changing attitude to be a better mum and person, I stepped back and realised it is ok to want to do things for myself sometimes and to say yes! This is a hugely important to me, saying yes and doing things I want to do, not just going along with what everyone else wants, I get to have a choice and do things to make me happy too. Anyway going back to celebrating what makes me special, I have always been a lover of collecting new hobbies and interests/ obsessions -,healthy obsessions like books, music and tv shows not drugs or anything – but the last few years, I have put myself last in everything. It’s ok and I am content I did this, as I think we need to do that those first few years to get through being a new mum. Our children rely on us a lot so we have to become less selfish and more altruistic. It’s why we have unconditional love and it is what makes me a good mum. I will always put the kids first, this is a given but I am now discovering I have a bit of freedom and what is most wonderful is; I have children that want to know about me, want to know what I like and they encourage me as much as I do them. This new found realisation has lead me to want to share this with like minded people, and carry on my journey to being the best version of me I can be.

So, this blog will effectively be another look into my chaotic brain (my other blog is very similar in that regard) but this will be my continuing education into this whole new world that has opened up for me. I have given myself chance to discover new things and rather than going back to my old self, I am moving forward to be this even better version of my past and current self. My children are and will always be my first priority but I love I am getting to experience new things at 33. It’s wonderful! I hope you enjoy following me into this crazy, chaotic new wonderland.
It’s going to feature more than just BTS but as they are due in Wembley, this is where I will be kicking off, but it will have other groups, dramas, artists. It will also branch into my other hobbies and interests such as Harry Potter, but that is for another day.
The countdown for Wembley is on so!
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